How to Deal with Infidelity in a Marriage (90 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • June 13, 2023

15 Days to a Better Marriage


Day 9


How to Deal with Infidelity in a Marriage (90 Second Read)


This topic is far greater than anything we could cover in 90 seconds. Here’s are 3 basic necessities to get you started on the path to reconciliation.


1. HUMILITY - An admittance of wrongdoing and a desire to restore the marriage.


Recovering from infidelity first begins with humility. If there’s a chance that the marriage is going to survive, it’s going to take both people taking FULL ownership of their part in this. It begins by looking in the mirror. PRIDEFULNESS has no place in reconciliation.


2. DISCERNMENT – A clear understanding of how we got to this point in the first place.


If we don’t know how we got to this point in the first place then how do we know it isn’t going to happen again? We need to determine where we got off the path so we can keep from tripping up again. We need to feel SAFE to keep trying and safety is often found in understanding.


3. EMOTIONS - An ability to empathize with how the infidelity has deeply hurt us and our spouse.


We must FEEL and sit in the hard feelings. Oftentimes an affair happens because we’ve numbed out to our marriage. We need to grieve this loss. It could be a loss of innocence, of reputation, or of expectations. We need to try to truly feel the depth of how our behaviors have hurt ourselves and others.


Just because your marriage is going through a crisis doesn’t mean you can’t make it through this. Many couples are able to survive an affair, repair their marriages, and come out even stronger on the other side.


Don’t try to recover from an affair in isolation. It takes accountability.



HOMEWORK: Commit to a minimum of 10 marriage counseling sessions before deciding whether to divorce or not. Reach out and I’ll help you find the right marriage counselor for you.


As always, if you’re stuck then don’t hesitate to reach out to me personally. I help couples reconnect every day and get back on track to having a marriage they’re excited to go home to.



Depression and Movement
By Daniel Crosby September 8, 2025
Depression and Movement Alright, you knew it was coming. This is the 2nd most important way to beat depression. The 1st is Connection. You can’t beat this thing alone. The 2nd is Exercise or Movement. I say movement because when you’re struggling, you probably don’t feel like training for a marathon or joining a CrossFit gym. But when you don’t move at all, you don’t grow at all. Depression tells us to close the blinds and to lay in bed all day long in the dark accomplishing nothing. All that is going to do is stir up more Depression. Movement gives us a small goal to achieve and it get our muscles engaged and our blood and brain chemicals flowing again. You are just simply going to feel more alive. Here are 3 simple ways to start moving again: 1. Begin with gentle movement. • It doesn’t have to involve sweating • Try a yoga video on YouTube or just • Do 5 minutes of stretching 2. Set a reminder to do three 5-minute mood walks during the day • Walk around the building at work • Walk around the house on a rainy day • Notice your breath and the cadence of your arms and legs swinging back and forth 3. Make movement enjoyable • Walk to an enjoyable destination like the local bakery or to your favorite spot on the greenway to get a picture of a waterfall • Listen to your favorite music or podcast • Socialize while moving like the old ladies power walking at the mall Homework: Try doing some sort of new movement this week that’s out of the norm for you and let the rest of us know what you did and if it made you feel better.
Depression and Routine Habits
By Daniel Crosby September 1, 2025
Depression + Routine Habits Ask any Kindergarten teacher if structure and routine is important. I think we crave comfort and consistency of what we know because it makes us feel safe. We like our favorite food at our favorite restaurant and we sit in the same place at church most of the time. But when depression hits, it can throw off our healthy routines and even spiral us into unhealthy habits. If you’re battling some depression you might be letting some stuff slide, like cleaning the house, eating healthy, or getting to work on time. 3 Ways to Reignite Healthy Routines: 1. Write it down – • Write down a checklist of to-do items the night before for what I plan to accomplish the next day. These can be big goal like filing your taxes or small personal hygiene goals like brushing your teeth. 2. Use accountability – • Piggyback onto someone else’s routine. If you know your buddy goes to the gym every morning at 5am, ask if he will call you every morning for a month until you create your own habit. 3. Reward consistency, not intensity, growth, or perfection – • We’re looking for reps. So what if you didn’t talk to anyone at church or sign up to serve in the children’s ministry. You showed up 5 Sundays in a row! That’s fantastic! Now go get ice cream! Homework: Pick one thing you need to get back into the routine of doing and try one of ideas above and tell us how you did.
By Daniel Crosby August 25, 2025
Depression + Meaning Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist during WW2, was imprisoned in a concentration camp for most of the war and when the war ended he wrote a book titled “Man’s Search for Meaning.” He believed that the absence of meaning is what leads to depression. Out of his experiences, he developed a therapy technique to help people find meaning in their lives. So if a lack of meaning is fueling some of your depression, here’s what Dr. Frankl would suggest. 1. Contribute to the world through work, projects, or any form of creation that brings a sense of purpose. • You were created for a unique purpose that only you can fulfill. What is it? 2. Experience the world, including appreciating beauty, encountering love, and engaging with others. • You were created to live, not to scroll. What did you experience today that made you feel alive? 3. Choose a positive, responsible attitude towards unavoidable suffering, such as illness or loss. • You were created to be resilient and live in hope. What hard thing have you overcome because you are strong? Homework: • I want you to write down which of those 3 might be lacking in your life right now. • Then I want you to write down one small way that you can go meet that need for meaning in your life.