Marriage and Couples Counseling
You started your relationship or a marriage with the hopes and dreams that it is going to be great. Then you got a few months or a few years in and something disappointed you. It could be a crisis or a long slow burn. Either way, you began questioning things. Maybe you’ve tried going to your significant other to try to and repair the struggle only to be met with defensiveness, shutting down, or it’s made the problem even worse.
Couples Counseling is a great place to begin the process of relating to one another better. You will get a lot out of couples counseling if you identify with the following:
- I recognize that most problems are two-sided. I’m likely contributing to our problems in some way.
- I’m willing to look inwardly at what I’m contributing and I’m open to making changes.
- I want a win for our relationship not just for myself.
Couples Counseling is a conversation. It’s never “one size fits all” and every situation is unique. We all come from different backgrounds and from different families with different experiences. I want to help you both begin to hear the perspective of the other person. Oftentimes we have rehearsed our arguments so many times we’re on autopilot and we end up down the same path, feeling frustrated and alone.
Let’s start doing it differently. I’ll help you both hear one another’s’ viewpoints and provide you with feedback from an outside perspective.
“But I just feel weird airing all of our personal stuff to a perfect stranger.”
People often joke with me, “How have we had this conversation 100 times at home and it didn’t help but when we say it in front of you things change?” It’s because I don’t live with you, eat dinner with you, or have to pick up your dirty socks and t-shirts. There’s power in bringing in a third voice into the conversation.
“But I don’t think I could even get my significant other to come with me to counseling.”
I’m willing to bet counseling isn’t what you may be picturing. I’m a person just like the both of you. We’re just going to begin by talking through some questions and getting to know each other. Even if your partner won’t come with you, come anyway. You might be surprised at what all can change in a relationship if you are willing to lead by example and take the first step.
If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out at:
daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com
I prefer an integrative approach to couples counseling. That's a really fancy way of saying, I like to use the best approach for your relationship that actually works to help you both become an even better version of yourselves! Some common approaches I use with couples are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), The Gottman Method, Narrative Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, as well as other Person Centered techniques.
