Anxiety: Resiliency (90 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • January 30, 2024

Resiliency - the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. (Oxford English Dictionary - 2023)


This life is brutal sometimes. We all have the scars, physically and emotionally, to prove it.

 

You have been through some awful stuff in your life, stuff that would give others nightmares.


Here are 3 things that are true:


1. People suck - They’ve hurt you, bullied you, made fun of you.


2. Life isn’t fair - You’ve been rejected, passed over, abandoned.


3. You’re hurting - You’ve wanted to give up, not wake up, just quit.


Here 1 BIGGER truth:


1. You are stronger than you think you are.


You may not feel this way, but the truth is that you have a 100% undefeated record.


Nothing that you have ever come up against in your life has defeated you because you’re still alive and kickin’.


So what?


If you’re still here, then that means you have a purpose. You have a job to do. The rest of us need you.


For me personally, my faith in Christ tells me that. God created me with intentionality and a plan in mind. I have a mission to accomplish. Whether you believe like I do or not, that’s still true for you.


We all must get back up and keep moving. Who knows, maybe the hurt you’re going through right now has great purpose in the future?


Rory Vaden said, “You are most powerfully positioned to serve the person you once were…Look back on who you were and help that person.”


Homework:

1. Consider how your current or past hurt could be used to help someone who is going through the same thing? How could you advocate for them? How can we help each other?

2. If you don’t know how to make sense out of this, find a good friend or a good counselor to help walk with you through it. There is purpose in the answer. Don’t try once and then give up.


Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know.

"Uncomfortable" Book Review

By Daniel Crosby • May 7, 2025
“Uncomfortable: The Awkward and Essential Challenge of Christian Community” by Brett McCracken is a great book to read if you’re a church person or if you’ve become somewhat detached and frustrated with the church. McCracken challenges all of us, conservatives and progressives, to think about the WHY behind Christian community and one of the fundamentals of finding the WHY is approaching it with humility. Maybe you having it your way and telling everyone else they’re wrong wasn’t exactly what Christ had in mind when He instituted the church. iPhones and iPads seem to have morphed into iChurch in a sense. American culture has turned Christ’s church into a business that caters to our comforts aesthetically, relationally, and politically. It’s made us consumers, critics, and reviewers of the Church rather than servants of THE Kingdom. It’s not wrong to have preferences and to like some things better than others. Music, décor, and speaking style are all over the spectrum at different churches, but he argues that the point of picking a church and serving in it should be less about does it meet my needs and more about whether I’m showing up and using this place along with this group to glorify God. He annoyed me in parts because he steps on my toes but maybe we need that a little more often. If you’re disenfranchised with the status quo and you feel like it’d be good to be challenged about church then go grab “Uncomfortable” by Brett McCrackin.

Look for Beautiful Things

By Daniel Crosby • April 28, 2025
Look for beautiful things when you're restless, uncomfortable, or on edge. There's something about acknowledging the good around us that helps us reset and realize that it's not all bad. If you're struggling to see beautiful things in the world, come see me and we can talk more about it. www.danielcrosbycounseling.com

"The Needs of the Heart" Book Review

By Daniel Crosby • April 24, 2025
“The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd is a book that will blow your mind. When I picked it up, it’s a very small thin book. Less than 100 pages. I assumed I’d breeze through it in a couple of hours. About a month later I finished digesting it. The truth is we cannot fully live the life God has called us to unless we acknowledge that we do have needs, that these needs are good, and discover the healthy ways of meeting these needs. Chip takes common human needs like Security and Accomplishment and he unpacks what they really are pointing us to in his typical concise but brilliant depth. There’s no fluff here. With chapters just 3-4 pages each, you’re going to want to have a highlighter ready to underline, to ponder these topics, and maybe then to discuss them with someone you know and trust. You’ll come away from this book with a deeper sense what is already fulfilled within you and ones that might be lacking where you need to go do a deep dive with a lot of prayer and introspection. If you liked Chip’s book “The Voice of the Heart,” this is one is your next read. Go grab “The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd.