Anxiety: Asking for Help! (90 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • January 23, 2024

One of the hardest things to do is admit that we’re struggling and that we need help.


Remember that mask that we’ve talked about in other articles? Asking for help requires that we voluntarily take our mask off and admit that we aren’t a superhero.


It’s vulnerable because it conveys weakness and need. It’s a confession that we don’t have it all together.


Human nature is bent toward autonomy and independence. Have you ever met a child who was learning to tie their shoes? When you are in a hurry and they are painfully, slowly, trying to tie them by themselves, you offer to help but are met with the screech, “No! I can do it myself!”


I say it all the time, “The thing that’s worse than hurting is hurting alone.”


Here are 2 reasons it’s important to ask for help:


1. Without asking for help, I cheat myself out of the valuable wisdom of others.


There is growth and humility in asking for help. I’m admitting that I don’t know everything. We’ve become less humble as a society. We prefer to Google our symptoms and treat ourselves rather than going to a Dr. and trusting their expertise. There is so much wisdom all around us so why wouldn’t we tap into that to achieve a better outcome?


2. Without asking for help, I cheat others out of the joy of helping.


Anytime I ask people what they’d love to do for a dream job they usually say, “I just want to do something that makes a difference and helps people.” We are helpers by nature. Maybe this is our “strength in numbers” tribal instinct. Whatever the case, rejecting someone’s ability to help weakens us and it weakens them. Everyone wants to contribute. Why not help someone else out by asking for help and letting them use their gifts?


Homework:

1. The next time you are frustrated, check yourself and ask if your stubbornness is keeping you from asking for help.

2. The next time you ask for help, consider the good feeling it gives the other person to help you.


Every day I help hurting frazzled people by walking with them as they get back on the path toward becoming who God created them to be. Shoot me an email if there’s anything I can do to help you or someone you know.

Depression and Movement
By Daniel Crosby September 8, 2025
Depression and Movement Alright, you knew it was coming. This is the 2nd most important way to beat depression. The 1st is Connection. You can’t beat this thing alone. The 2nd is Exercise or Movement. I say movement because when you’re struggling, you probably don’t feel like training for a marathon or joining a CrossFit gym. But when you don’t move at all, you don’t grow at all. Depression tells us to close the blinds and to lay in bed all day long in the dark accomplishing nothing. All that is going to do is stir up more Depression. Movement gives us a small goal to achieve and it get our muscles engaged and our blood and brain chemicals flowing again. You are just simply going to feel more alive. Here are 3 simple ways to start moving again: 1. Begin with gentle movement. • It doesn’t have to involve sweating • Try a yoga video on YouTube or just • Do 5 minutes of stretching 2. Set a reminder to do three 5-minute mood walks during the day • Walk around the building at work • Walk around the house on a rainy day • Notice your breath and the cadence of your arms and legs swinging back and forth 3. Make movement enjoyable • Walk to an enjoyable destination like the local bakery or to your favorite spot on the greenway to get a picture of a waterfall • Listen to your favorite music or podcast • Socialize while moving like the old ladies power walking at the mall Homework: Try doing some sort of new movement this week that’s out of the norm for you and let the rest of us know what you did and if it made you feel better.
Depression and Routine Habits
By Daniel Crosby September 1, 2025
Depression + Routine Habits Ask any Kindergarten teacher if structure and routine is important. I think we crave comfort and consistency of what we know because it makes us feel safe. We like our favorite food at our favorite restaurant and we sit in the same place at church most of the time. But when depression hits, it can throw off our healthy routines and even spiral us into unhealthy habits. If you’re battling some depression you might be letting some stuff slide, like cleaning the house, eating healthy, or getting to work on time. 3 Ways to Reignite Healthy Routines: 1. Write it down – • Write down a checklist of to-do items the night before for what I plan to accomplish the next day. These can be big goal like filing your taxes or small personal hygiene goals like brushing your teeth. 2. Use accountability – • Piggyback onto someone else’s routine. If you know your buddy goes to the gym every morning at 5am, ask if he will call you every morning for a month until you create your own habit. 3. Reward consistency, not intensity, growth, or perfection – • We’re looking for reps. So what if you didn’t talk to anyone at church or sign up to serve in the children’s ministry. You showed up 5 Sundays in a row! That’s fantastic! Now go get ice cream! Homework: Pick one thing you need to get back into the routine of doing and try one of ideas above and tell us how you did.
By Daniel Crosby August 25, 2025
Depression + Meaning Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist during WW2, was imprisoned in a concentration camp for most of the war and when the war ended he wrote a book titled “Man’s Search for Meaning.” He believed that the absence of meaning is what leads to depression. Out of his experiences, he developed a therapy technique to help people find meaning in their lives. So if a lack of meaning is fueling some of your depression, here’s what Dr. Frankl would suggest. 1. Contribute to the world through work, projects, or any form of creation that brings a sense of purpose. • You were created for a unique purpose that only you can fulfill. What is it? 2. Experience the world, including appreciating beauty, encountering love, and engaging with others. • You were created to live, not to scroll. What did you experience today that made you feel alive? 3. Choose a positive, responsible attitude towards unavoidable suffering, such as illness or loss. • You were created to be resilient and live in hope. What hard thing have you overcome because you are strong? Homework: • I want you to write down which of those 3 might be lacking in your life right now. • Then I want you to write down one small way that you can go meet that need for meaning in your life.