3 Important Times to Communicate in Your Marriage (1 Minute Read)
Daniel Crosby • June 13, 2023

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3 Important Times to Communicate in Your Marriage (1 Minute Read)


If you’ve been married more than 5 minutes you realize that you married an alien that speaks a completely different language.


It can make for some spirited discussions.


Here are the three most important times when you should communicate extra with your spouse.


1. When things are BAD


During a disagreement or a family crisis we must work extra hard to communicate well. Emotions are high and we’re likely doing more miscommunicating than we are connecting. You can bet that communication has ended if: 1. voices are raised, 2. there’s no eye contact, or 3. You keep interrupting each other.


2. When things are GOOD


One of the most powerful forces on the planet is encouragement. Have you ever met anyone that turned down encouragement? We all doubt ourselves everyday. When you catch your spouse doing something good (Hint: They do many good things everyday) then verbally tell them you noticed and appreciate what they did or how they did it.


3. When things are BORING


In our world of endless social media scrolling, it’s easy to use down time as personal phone time. When we’re waiting for a table in the restaurant, riding in the car together, or waiting in the car rider line for pickup, use that time to call or talk to your spouse. Share about your day and ask them if you can share about yours. It’s often in the mundane times that connection happens.


Homework: Which one of these situations needs some work at your house? Try to be intentional about communicating well this week in that area.


As always, if you’re stuck then don’t hesitate to reach out to me personally. I help couples reconnect every day and get back on track to having a marriage they’re excited to go home to.

"Uncomfortable" Book Review

By Daniel Crosby • May 7, 2025
“Uncomfortable: The Awkward and Essential Challenge of Christian Community” by Brett McCracken is a great book to read if you’re a church person or if you’ve become somewhat detached and frustrated with the church. McCracken challenges all of us, conservatives and progressives, to think about the WHY behind Christian community and one of the fundamentals of finding the WHY is approaching it with humility. Maybe you having it your way and telling everyone else they’re wrong wasn’t exactly what Christ had in mind when He instituted the church. iPhones and iPads seem to have morphed into iChurch in a sense. American culture has turned Christ’s church into a business that caters to our comforts aesthetically, relationally, and politically. It’s made us consumers, critics, and reviewers of the Church rather than servants of THE Kingdom. It’s not wrong to have preferences and to like some things better than others. Music, décor, and speaking style are all over the spectrum at different churches, but he argues that the point of picking a church and serving in it should be less about does it meet my needs and more about whether I’m showing up and using this place along with this group to glorify God. He annoyed me in parts because he steps on my toes but maybe we need that a little more often. If you’re disenfranchised with the status quo and you feel like it’d be good to be challenged about church then go grab “Uncomfortable” by Brett McCrackin.

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"The Needs of the Heart" Book Review

By Daniel Crosby • April 24, 2025
“The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd is a book that will blow your mind. When I picked it up, it’s a very small thin book. Less than 100 pages. I assumed I’d breeze through it in a couple of hours. About a month later I finished digesting it. The truth is we cannot fully live the life God has called us to unless we acknowledge that we do have needs, that these needs are good, and discover the healthy ways of meeting these needs. Chip takes common human needs like Security and Accomplishment and he unpacks what they really are pointing us to in his typical concise but brilliant depth. There’s no fluff here. With chapters just 3-4 pages each, you’re going to want to have a highlighter ready to underline, to ponder these topics, and maybe then to discuss them with someone you know and trust. You’ll come away from this book with a deeper sense what is already fulfilled within you and ones that might be lacking where you need to go do a deep dive with a lot of prayer and introspection. If you liked Chip’s book “The Voice of the Heart,” this is one is your next read. Go grab “The Needs of the Heart” by Chip Dodd.