2 Questions to Ask When Trust is Broken (60 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • January 18, 2023

1.    “How did we get here in the first place?”


We tend to repeat our past mistakes when we don’t understand why the mistake happened. If you cannot definitively answer this question then the relationship will struggle to heal. I’m afraid you’re just trying to avoid the uncomfortable conversations and you may hurt me in the future when things get tough again.


2.    “Do you truly understand how deeply this has hurt me?”


Can you put yourself in my shoes? Can you see what this must feel like from my vantage point? This is not just saying the words “I’m sorry I hurt you.” Being able to sit with me in my hurt that you caused me and truly feel the hurt will help me begin to heal. If you feel it with me then the odds of you hurting me again go down significantly. Now I can begin to feel safer with you and open myself up to rebuilding trust.


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