Starving for Relief (2 Minute Read)
Daniel Crosby • May 8, 2023

As early as I can remember I’ve always wanted to fit in.


On the playground, in social circles, in our families, and in our work, we silently ask the questions:


  • Am I worthy?
  • Do I matter?
  • Am I going to be ok?


We are starving and desperate for a YES answer to those questions.


The problem with literal starvation is that a starving person WILL eat anything put in front of him whether it’s healthy or not. To a starving person even a piece of moldy bread looks good.


A lot of the tension in our world right now is due to our desperate attempts to get a YES answer by any means, in any way, and by anyone.


We turn to self-help books, intimate relationships, substances, achievement, identity groups, and a myriad of other things in hopes that that thing will say:


  • YES!
  • You are good!
  • You are one of us!
  • You belong here!


What we must consider, however, is whether the thing we are turning to is really healthy or not.


  • Moldy bread WILL fill us up, but it WILL hurt us in the process.
  • A shallow hook up on Tinder WILL cure our aloneness today, but it WILL also make us lonelier tomorrow.
  • A 6-pack of beer WILL numb a bad day at work, but tomorrow WILL be the same...now facing it with a hangover.


My faith and my life experiences have taught me that human wisdom, human advice, human inventions, and human self-identity are, at best, limited and temporary. This is why so many people look to something or Someone bigger than themselves when they are in the depths of despair.


Look to healthy over unhealthy.


Look to fulfilling contentment over temporary thrill.


In all of it, choose connection. There’s safety in numbers as we wrestle with our hurt.


If you or someone you know is hurting, please give them my contact info. I’d love to hear their story. Even if I’m not the best fit for them as a counselor, I’d love to help them find the right counselor to walk with them.

Depression and Movement
By Daniel Crosby September 8, 2025
Depression and Movement Alright, you knew it was coming. This is the 2nd most important way to beat depression. The 1st is Connection. You can’t beat this thing alone. The 2nd is Exercise or Movement. I say movement because when you’re struggling, you probably don’t feel like training for a marathon or joining a CrossFit gym. But when you don’t move at all, you don’t grow at all. Depression tells us to close the blinds and to lay in bed all day long in the dark accomplishing nothing. All that is going to do is stir up more Depression. Movement gives us a small goal to achieve and it get our muscles engaged and our blood and brain chemicals flowing again. You are just simply going to feel more alive. Here are 3 simple ways to start moving again: 1. Begin with gentle movement. • It doesn’t have to involve sweating • Try a yoga video on YouTube or just • Do 5 minutes of stretching 2. Set a reminder to do three 5-minute mood walks during the day • Walk around the building at work • Walk around the house on a rainy day • Notice your breath and the cadence of your arms and legs swinging back and forth 3. Make movement enjoyable • Walk to an enjoyable destination like the local bakery or to your favorite spot on the greenway to get a picture of a waterfall • Listen to your favorite music or podcast • Socialize while moving like the old ladies power walking at the mall Homework: Try doing some sort of new movement this week that’s out of the norm for you and let the rest of us know what you did and if it made you feel better.
Depression and Routine Habits
By Daniel Crosby September 1, 2025
Depression + Routine Habits Ask any Kindergarten teacher if structure and routine is important. I think we crave comfort and consistency of what we know because it makes us feel safe. We like our favorite food at our favorite restaurant and we sit in the same place at church most of the time. But when depression hits, it can throw off our healthy routines and even spiral us into unhealthy habits. If you’re battling some depression you might be letting some stuff slide, like cleaning the house, eating healthy, or getting to work on time. 3 Ways to Reignite Healthy Routines: 1. Write it down – • Write down a checklist of to-do items the night before for what I plan to accomplish the next day. These can be big goal like filing your taxes or small personal hygiene goals like brushing your teeth. 2. Use accountability – • Piggyback onto someone else’s routine. If you know your buddy goes to the gym every morning at 5am, ask if he will call you every morning for a month until you create your own habit. 3. Reward consistency, not intensity, growth, or perfection – • We’re looking for reps. So what if you didn’t talk to anyone at church or sign up to serve in the children’s ministry. You showed up 5 Sundays in a row! That’s fantastic! Now go get ice cream! Homework: Pick one thing you need to get back into the routine of doing and try one of ideas above and tell us how you did.
By Daniel Crosby August 25, 2025
Depression + Meaning Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist during WW2, was imprisoned in a concentration camp for most of the war and when the war ended he wrote a book titled “Man’s Search for Meaning.” He believed that the absence of meaning is what leads to depression. Out of his experiences, he developed a therapy technique to help people find meaning in their lives. So if a lack of meaning is fueling some of your depression, here’s what Dr. Frankl would suggest. 1. Contribute to the world through work, projects, or any form of creation that brings a sense of purpose. • You were created for a unique purpose that only you can fulfill. What is it? 2. Experience the world, including appreciating beauty, encountering love, and engaging with others. • You were created to live, not to scroll. What did you experience today that made you feel alive? 3. Choose a positive, responsible attitude towards unavoidable suffering, such as illness or loss. • You were created to be resilient and live in hope. What hard thing have you overcome because you are strong? Homework: • I want you to write down which of those 3 might be lacking in your life right now. • Then I want you to write down one small way that you can go meet that need for meaning in your life.