How to Help Someone Get Help (90 Second Read)
Daniel Crosby • February 13, 2023

The world is changing for the better in a lot of ways. There are more people now than ever before throwing off the stigma of counseling and connecting to get a counselor’s perspective.


So what can you do to encourage a friend who is still a little hesitant about reaching out to a counselor for the first time?


1.    “I wonder…” - This phrase says, “I’m interested” and “I suggest” in a casual and nonthreatening way. “I wonder if it would help to go talk to a good counselor who can help from an unbiased perspective?”


2.    Transparency - One of the most powerful connectors is shared pain. Telling your friend about something you’ve struggled with can help them step out and take a risk. “Back when I was going through my divorce, I remember how lonely it felt. You may not know this, but I spent a lot of sleepless nights by myself questioning everything. Looking back, I wish I had gone to talk to someone about it.”


3.    Personal Experience – If you or someone you know has talked to a counselor, make a direct recommendation. “I know that when my daughter met with Daniel she really got a lot out of it. Maybe shoot him an email and see if he could help with this situation.”


4.    Ride Along – Fear of the unknown is terrifying. Offer to go along. “If this is something you want to do, I’ll ride along with you to your first meeting and just wait for you in the waiting room. We’ll go grab coffee afterward and you can tell me how it went.”


If none of these ideas works, THAT’S OK! People will go and get help when they’re ready. Take a step back and remind them that you’re here for them and you love them.


If you know someone who is ready, have them reach out to me:


daniel@danielcrosbycounseling.com


www.danielcrosbycounseling.com


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