"Don't Believe Everything You Think" Book Review
Daniel Crosby • July 16, 2025
“Don’t Believe Everything You Think” by Joseph Nguyen is interesting. It’s one of those books where you need to grab hold of the concepts that are of benefit and toss the ones that aren’t. There’s some new-agey stuff in it that sounded like fluff to me but I had one big takeaway that I’ll use.
Here it is:
THOUGHTS are great!
THINKING can become problematic.
When you have a thought, that is neutral. It’s a fact. It’s what we do with that thought that then becomes helpful or harmful.
When I take that factual thought and I begin over THINKING, JUDGING myself, SPIRALING into worst case scenarios, then the thought ceases to be productive.
I’m confessing to you here. I’m raising my right hand. “Hi, my name is Daniel and I am an overthinker.” And then the crowd at the meeting replied I unison, “Hi Daniel.”
Accept the thought but keep an eye on it because if the thought begins to get squirely and become self-critical or catastrophize then we need to snap ourselves back to reality.
He gives you a little practical help with this but it’s only a 2 hour audiobook so it’s limited.
Hey, that’s why you should come see me for counseling though. As an overthinker, we can work together to find ways to help your overthinking.
It’s worth a read though. “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” by Joseph Nguyen.
Depression + Routine Habits Ask any Kindergarten teacher if structure and routine is important. I think we crave comfort and consistency of what we know because it makes us feel safe. We like our favorite food at our favorite restaurant and we sit in the same place at church most of the time. But when depression hits, it can throw off our healthy routines and even spiral us into unhealthy habits. If you’re battling some depression you might be letting some stuff slide, like cleaning the house, eating healthy, or getting to work on time. 3 Ways to Reignite Healthy Routines: 1. Write it down – • Write down a checklist of to-do items the night before for what I plan to accomplish the next day. These can be big goal like filing your taxes or small personal hygiene goals like brushing your teeth. 2. Use accountability – • Piggyback onto someone else’s routine. If you know your buddy goes to the gym every morning at 5am, ask if he will call you every morning for a month until you create your own habit. 3. Reward consistency, not intensity, growth, or perfection – • We’re looking for reps. So what if you didn’t talk to anyone at church or sign up to serve in the children’s ministry. You showed up 5 Sundays in a row! That’s fantastic! Now go get ice cream! Homework: Pick one thing you need to get back into the routine of doing and try one of ideas above and tell us how you did.
Depression + Meaning Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist during WW2, was imprisoned in a concentration camp for most of the war and when the war ended he wrote a book titled “Man’s Search for Meaning.” He believed that the absence of meaning is what leads to depression. Out of his experiences, he developed a therapy technique to help people find meaning in their lives. So if a lack of meaning is fueling some of your depression, here’s what Dr. Frankl would suggest. 1. Contribute to the world through work, projects, or any form of creation that brings a sense of purpose. • You were created for a unique purpose that only you can fulfill. What is it? 2. Experience the world, including appreciating beauty, encountering love, and engaging with others. • You were created to live, not to scroll. What did you experience today that made you feel alive? 3. Choose a positive, responsible attitude towards unavoidable suffering, such as illness or loss. • You were created to be resilient and live in hope. What hard thing have you overcome because you are strong? Homework: • I want you to write down which of those 3 might be lacking in your life right now. • Then I want you to write down one small way that you can go meet that need for meaning in your life.
Depression + Loneliness The thing that is worse than hurting is hurting alone. But there’s a difference in being alone and being lonely. Sometimes we experience extreme loneliness even when we’re surrounded by people. Loneliness is about an internal disconnection, not being known, not fitting in, not belonging, and feeling different. Alone means, literally isolated, no one around, standing in the middle of the woods where no one can hear you even if you screamed. Loneliness is an alarm like the fuel light on the dash alerting us that we’re nearing empty and need refilling. Part of what drives our depression is a denial of our loneliness and an attitude of “I don’t need anyone. I’m strong and independent. I SHOULD be able to handle this on my own.” That’s fine if you want to believe that, but if you ignore the fuel light for too long, you’re going to end up walking home. So what do we do about loneliness? Homework: I want you to ask, “Where do people like me hang out?” because, I guarantee, you’re not the only one struggling with this. • If you’re struggling as a mom with young kids, go find a mom with young kids to be with or even a slightly older mom who just exited that season and can encourage you. • If you’re a man struggling with a secret porn addiction, go to a SA or Celebrate Recovery meeting. There’s no shame there because you’re all there for the same reason. • Find a good counselor. Counselors are trained listeners, validators, encouragers, and connectors. A good counselor will help you put words to your loneliness and help you come up with a plan to meet the cravings of your heart’s desire in healthy ways.
